Confidence breeds Competence

alabama, alabama election, black girl magic, black girls rock, black women, blog, competence, confidence, future author, future best-seller, i love writing, lādē, new blog, new blogger, power -

Confidence breeds Competence

December 14, 2017

You know that saying when you look good you feel good? Well mannn I feel GREAT! It’s something about when you get your nails done, hair done, eyebrows done, buy yourself something you walk around with a confidence about yourself that you never knew you had.

That confidence that nobody can tell you nothing! Lol

That I know I’m the Sugar Honey Iced Tea type of confidence!

That you broke up with me yesterday but I already have an all-star lineup of guys that been ready to shoot their shot today type of confidence.

That constant reassurance of your capabilities from yourself, your job, your peers, your parents, and anyone you come across.

Confidence breeds competence!

Confidence blocks any negative thought or action that comes your way.  Confidence is defined the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust; the state of feeling certain about the truth of something; a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities.

Isn’t that an amazing feeling??? The fact that you do not need reassurance of your beauty, your worth, your abilities or anything that pertains to you from anyone else but YOU!

I remember when my confidence was so low that stuff I KNEW I was good at I failed at because of fear and what people may have thought! Like now, I can throw down in the kitchen but when someone would ask for a plate before I would say something like “you probably won’t like it but I’ll give you some” just so that if they don’t like I already pre warned them or I would get myself in some of the dumbest predicaments because I wasn’t confident enough in myself or in my own decision making to follow my first mind!

(I know that’s a run on sentence but whatever lol)

What I hate most about my lack of confidence phase was I locked myself in this box after I had my 1st child. I was trying to land radio or tv gigs for a year straight after graduating from the Illinois Center for Broadcasting because that is my passion. But no radio or tv station hired me and reached out to me to only say “sorry but we’ve considered other applicants for this position.” I gave up and continued to work my 9-5. I lost my drive and confidence in my communications abilities.

It wasn’t until a couple of years ago that I realized that I was better than just working a 9-5! Working for someone who can replace me at any time. I thought to myself that I did not want to feel like this anymore and that it was time for me to get up and do SOMETHING. I didn’t know what it was at the time I just knew I needed to do SOMETHING.

After soul searching I finally came up with Lādē and I couldn’t be more excited. I'm confident in my ability to keep secrets, being reliable, resourceful, and a help to others! I love making people feel good about themselves.

I am even more confident that I have taken EVERYTHING I’ve learned in radio and tv and am able to apply it to what I am doing right now! What I’ve learned, what I’ve experienced and what I worked so hard for did not go to waste.

I see the progress. I see the success. I see the opportunities. Compliments and reassurance from others are just a plus. When you’re confident you operate way more efficiently. 

I am confident and competent! I am able and capable! I am ready and willing to take on any task I set my mind to!

Take some time to review this chart! If you find your behavior associated with low self-confidence please make the necessary changes and challenge yourself! Walk in confidence because when you’re confident you’re competent and efficient at anything!


Confident Behavior

Behavior Associated With low Self-Confidence

Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize you for it.

Governing your behavior based on what other people think.

Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile to achieve better things.

Staying in your comfort zone, fearing failure, and so avoid taking risks.

Admitting your mistakes, and learning from them.

Working hard to cover up mistakes and hoping that you can fix the problem before anyone notices.

Waiting for others to congratulate you on your accomplishments.

Extolling your own virtues as often as possible to as many people as possible.

Accepting compliments graciously. “Thanks, I really worked hard on that prospectus. I’m pleased you recognize my efforts.”

Dismissing compliments offhandedly. “Oh that prospectus was nothing really, anyone could have done it.”

*If you need an ear, a confidant, or encouragement please feel free to call or text (708) 320-3121. I’ll be more than happy to assist you. I do not have all of the answers but I know people who may and we’ll figure it out together.


Forever a Lādē,

Tamara L. Wallace

Leave a comment

Please note, comments must be approved before they are published